Of course the idea of watching your partner with another man or woman excites you, but before involving a swinging threesome the most important thing is to talk to your partner about that.  Tell him or her, what do you want, what your fantasies are, be sincere and open, don`t hide anything from her or him. You can not involve your partner in swinging threesome without letting him or her know everything you think and feel about it and vice versa! Talk about why you want to do it, about what kind of threesome you are interested in: if you to see your partner with another woman or man, if you want to be both sexual involved or just want to watch.

Another important think you must talk about it is the third person involved in the swinging threesome. Who you want her or him to be: a friend, a stranger, someone you know, her or his age, the way you want her or him to look, etc.

All the persons involved must talk about their emotions, jealousy, any uncomfortable feelings, inhibitions, and so on. Very important are the boundaries you have to settle. What is okay to do and what is not, what is your comfort zone and yours partner, too. You can make a list with the things that are ok to do and things that you don`t want to do.

Every detail is important in order to enjoy a swinging threesome. This should be about sharing pleasure and joy, about improving and not destroying a relationship.

Swapping is not something pleasant for everyone, so telling directly to your partner that you want to swap may not be such a great idea. A good way to find out what your partner thinks about swapping is to start a honest conversation with her or him about it. Tell him or her about your desires and fantasies, about how much fun swap can be, tell him or her why you want to do it and ask about what she or he feels about it. An open and sincere conversation is very important, so don`t hesitate to talk about jealousy, fears, and to put questions.

Men are very attracted by the idea of swapping, but when it comes to women they are not so easy to convince. Women may think their men is not satisfied with them anymore, or they don`t love them anymore. That`s why, if you are a man and you want to involve your woman in a swapping, you must assure her that she is still the love of your life, that swapping is not about cheating. Make her feel loved and secure, be tender and gentle, bring her flowers and compliment her all the time. In that way she will realize how much you love her and the swapping will not be a threat to her.  If she starts to feel good about the swapping you can get her to swapping clubs, to meet and to talk to other swingers. Or you can ask her just to watch a swinging episode and tell her how much you would like something like that. It might be just a question of time, you have to be patient and give her all the time she needs.

With love, free communication, respect, sensitivity and trust, you and your life partner may become a swinging couple that loves to explore and learn more about that lifestyle.

Like any other good relationship, it takes time to get to a successful swinging. For swingers, success means to know as much as possible about the person or persons that they would like to get intimate with. That avoids bad experiences and helps to have a strong relationship with the swinging partner or partners. That`s why swingers have a complete profile that helps you to figure up about their personality before contact them.

Also, before taking any decision about your swinging intention, have a really open discussion with your partner, make sure that she or he understands what do you want, and why do want that. If your partner doesn`t share your thoughts and feelings about swinging, don`t cross the line.

Swingers are very willing to meet other people and to spend time with them in order to know them well. They are ready to dedicate time and energy in making a strong relationship with their partners but they want the same involvement in exchange.

For swingers the sexual act is not a simple sexual contact but a pleasant way of knowing their swinging partners and their life partners, too. It is a way of sharing their sexuality, intimate desires and fantasies. Swinging is a lifestyle that involves a strong and trustable relationship with your life partner that allows you to explore your sexuality outside the relationship.

For a successful swinging you have to know yourself very well as well as your life partner and the swinging partner, to trust and confide your partner about anything, to have a relationship that not allows jealousy or suspicions.

A successful swinging doesn`t equates with having an orgy, it`s about loving and trusting our partners so much that we can share our sexuality with other person or persons. You can enjoy the pleasure of love without messing up our relationship with our life partner.

If you are a single male and you want to get into a swinging community you should know that there are many couples looking for a single male. You have to search on internet for swinging sites and forums, register to these forums so you can meet another swinging people. In this way you can find about the swinging clubs and community around your area. Make a honest and complete profile of yourself on forums, so the swingers have the chance to find what kind of person you are. Pay attention to the spelling and grammar; if your profile will look like one made in a hurry, swingers will may think that you are superficial and all you want is just a night stand.

Put some pictures of your body but not of your sexual organ! If a couple is interested in your penis size they will ask you. Don`t praise your penis, it is not what the couples are looking for!

Don`t send emails to many couples; being a community, they interact and they will know about your email. They will understand that you don`t consider any of them special and you just want to have sex with any couple available. Do not say in your mail that the woman from the couple is hot, this is an offence and you will be rejected. But you may say compliments, both for the woman and her partner.

Respect is very important, also your attitude and your willing to understand and fulfill the couple`s desires and fantasies. In this way, yours will be fulfilled too.

Try to find things that you have in common with a couple, this will increase your chances to get close to them. They share a lifestyle not just their sexuality.

An important thing: be honest, sincere and open; don`t try to look like someone that you are not.  Have a relationship based on communication and friendship and you will be soon a part of the swinging community.

Like in any other sexual activity, safety is extremely important in swinging. Maybe you and your partner don`t use a condom because you know and trust each other, but the swinging involves another people so using condoms is absolutely necessary. Use latex condoms with water-based lube, it`s the safest way to avoid very dangerous diseases and pregnancy too. Not all the condoms are the same, so men should try different type of condoms from various brands to find the type they like the most. Be careful when you put the condom to catch its tip as you unroll it to forbid the forming of the air bubble in the reservoir tip. You can put some water-based lube on the condom to increase the comfort and the pleasure and to avoid the condom tearing during the sexual act.
Change the condom at every new partner, as well as when switch from the normal sex to the anal sex. Regarding the oral sex, the use of barrier for this type of sex is not very widespread in the swinging community, but you and your partner should decide if you want to use it or not. There are risks of taking herpes, as well as HIV if the oral sex is unprotected, so it`s very important to know very well your swing partners, if you don`t use safe sex oral barriers.
Use surgical gloves if you want to stick your hand in someone`s ass or vagina and if you had your fingers in someone`s ass hole or vagina, wash your hands with hot water and anti-bacterial soap. If you use sexual toys, dildos, vegetables, put a condom on it; don`t switch the toys from vagina to ass hole or from one person`s body to another without putting a new condom on it before.
Personal hygiene and using things such as: paper toilet, wet wipes, are also very important.