Archive for September, 2009

When One Wants It and the Other Goes Along 0

September 27th, 2009

It is saddening for me to see the number of couples thinking about trying the swinging lifestyle without proper preparations. The worst case is when one wants it so bad and the other goes along just to keep his or her loved one happy. This is not, and I seriously mean NOT, how swinging should be approached.

The very foundations of swinging are mutual pleasure and trust. If you are dragging your spouse into swinging, you clearly have not set the first foundation yet; you are simply not ready for swinging. Propose the idea of swinging to your partner, but don’t push them to agree with you. Swinging can do a lot of positive things to your relationship, but it can also turn it to dusts if you are approaching the lifestyle from the wrong angle. If your spouse is not comfortable with swinging, back off and wait until they are.

If you insist on swinging while your spouse is just doing it to make you happy, you will see your relationship crushed faster than you can imagine. Why? Because when you rush into swinging, you are most likely doing it because of the sex and not for the lifestyle as a whole package. Being able to trust your spouse and let him or her have recreational sex with other people is not an easy thing to do, and you — or your spouse — will feel jealous sooner or later. Just take it slow and make sure both parties are comfortable with the lifestyle; you’ll have plenty of time to swing once you set strong foundations.

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What Happens in Swingers Clubs Stays in Swingers Clubs 0

September 4th, 2009

Swinging is a very open lifestyle; you need to be open minded about the concept in order to enjoy it. There are also a lot of sexual activities involved, making the lifestyle even more ‘free’ and open. Still, there are certain aspects that need to stay protected. Not all swingers are comfortable letting other people, non-swingers, know about their involvement in the lifestyle.

You need to respect other swingers when it comes to their private lives. They may not want to share their personal information (i.e. phone number or address) and you need to be able to respect that. Asking questions about personal lives is considered impolite in swinging, so try to avoid it unless the topic is accidentally brought up by either party and no one is showing objections. Even if your swinging partners do gave you personal information, you shouldn’t be contacting them (pay a visit or call them at their offices) unless they are OK with it.

Another good principle is to remember that what happens in swingers clubs stays in swingers clubs; when I say swingers clubs I mean whatever happens when you are swinging, no matter where you are. It is not nice to meet a swinging partner at a local café and start to talk about swinging or what they did in front of everybody, so don’t do it. Respect their privacy and allow them to enjoy the lifestyle without worrying about their personal lives being breached. If you can respect other people’s privacy, they will surely respect yours.

Posted by admin in Clubs