Archive for October, 2009

Swinging: What’s In It for Me? 0

October 30th, 2009

Swinging is always about mutual pleasure. Both you and your spouse must accept the lifestyle voluntarily and must enjoy the process as well. The worst thing that can happen to your relationship when you practice swinging as part of it is to actually have your spouse wonders what swinging brings for them. In order to avoid that, you need to make sure that you keep the openness and honest communication among the two of you is intact, and that both of you maintain a certain level of comfort.

It is only natural that how you and your spouse feel about swinging change as you go deeper into the lifestyle. The most common reason your spouse changes his or her mind is seeing you having more pleasure than they do. You should avoid getting too carried away by the experience and stay in control at all times. You need to make sure your spouse is enjoying the ride as well, and having too much fun while your partner is not enjoying the activity will do you no good.

If you are into swinging, you must have managed to establish a certain amount of openness and trust at the beginning. Use this openness to constantly communicate with each other and discuss about various aspects of the lifestyle. You will be able to see what works and improve the overall experience. This way, you will never have to deal with disappointed spouse and both of you can have more pleasant experiences swinging together.

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Swinging Beyond Sex 0

October 4th, 2009

I came to notice that the main concern often brought forward by people against swinging as a lifestyle, especially those with religions and moral as their motives, is the sexual activities involved in this lifestyle. Yes, we do have to admit that swinging involves a certain degree of sexual activities in the process. Yet, it is not solely about seeking sexual satisfactions.

Swinging is far beyond sex. If you take your time and think about the level of trust and the intensity of love involved in swinging, you will notice that it is not just about sex. The main reason why swinging couples, over 90% of them, are living superbly happy lives is because they can explore themselves sexually, be open about their fantasies, and learn to trust and love their spouses even more each day. Swinging is a very fulfilling lifestyle and no one gets hurt in the process. People who approached swinging because of the sex are those who will see their relationships degrade over time; this is a clear mark that swinging must be seen more than just a sexual lifestyle.

It is natural that there will be pros and cons about a lifestyle, and swinging is no exception. As a swinger, I can understand perfectly how people against the lifestyle think and I don’t blame them whatsoever. They have logical reasons — according to conventional cultures and religions — and swinging does require more in-depth look to understand. In time, people will be able to see swinging beyond the sex part and accept the lifestyle as one full of love.

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