It is saddening for me to see the number of couples thinking about trying the swinging lifestyle without proper preparations. The worst case is when one wants it so bad and the other goes along just to keep his or her loved one happy. This is not, and I seriously mean NOT, how swinging should be approached.

The very foundations of swinging are mutual pleasure and trust. If you are dragging your spouse into swinging, you clearly have not set the first foundation yet; you are simply not ready for swinging. Propose the idea of swinging to your partner, but don’t push them to agree with you. Swinging can do a lot of positive things to your relationship, but it can also turn it to dusts if you are approaching the lifestyle from the wrong angle. If your spouse is not comfortable with swinging, back off and wait until they are.

If you insist on swinging while your spouse is just doing it to make you happy, you will see your relationship crushed faster than you can imagine. Why? Because when you rush into swinging, you are most likely doing it because of the sex and not for the lifestyle as a whole package. Being able to trust your spouse and let him or her have recreational sex with other people is not an easy thing to do, and you — or your spouse — will feel jealous sooner or later. Just take it slow and make sure both parties are comfortable with the lifestyle; you’ll have plenty of time to swing once you set strong foundations.