Swapping is not something pleasant for everyone, so telling directly to your partner that you want to swap may not be such a great idea. A good way to find out what your partner thinks about swapping is to start a honest conversation with her or him about it. Tell him or her about your desires and fantasies, about how much fun swap can be, tell him or her why you want to do it and ask about what she or he feels about it. An open and sincere conversation is very important, so don`t hesitate to talk about jealousy, fears, and to put questions.

Men are very attracted by the idea of swapping, but when it comes to women they are not so easy to convince. Women may think their men is not satisfied with them anymore, or they don`t love them anymore. That`s why, if you are a man and you want to involve your woman in a swapping, you must assure her that she is still the love of your life, that swapping is not about cheating. Make her feel loved and secure, be tender and gentle, bring her flowers and compliment her all the time. In that way she will realize how much you love her and the swapping will not be a threat to her.  If she starts to feel good about the swapping you can get her to swapping clubs, to meet and to talk to other swingers. Or you can ask her just to watch a swinging episode and tell her how much you would like something like that. It might be just a question of time, you have to be patient and give her all the time she needs.

With love, free communication, respect, sensitivity and trust, you and your life partner may become a swinging couple that loves to explore and learn more about that lifestyle.