Of course the idea of watching your partner with another man or woman excites you, but before involving a swinging threesome the most important thing is to talk to your partner about that.  Tell him or her, what do you want, what your fantasies are, be sincere and open, don`t hide anything from her or him. You can not involve your partner in swinging threesome without letting him or her know everything you think and feel about it and vice versa! Talk about why you want to do it, about what kind of threesome you are interested in: if you to see your partner with another woman or man, if you want to be both sexual involved or just want to watch.

Another important think you must talk about it is the third person involved in the swinging threesome. Who you want her or him to be: a friend, a stranger, someone you know, her or his age, the way you want her or him to look, etc.

All the persons involved must talk about their emotions, jealousy, any uncomfortable feelings, inhibitions, and so on. Very important are the boundaries you have to settle. What is okay to do and what is not, what is your comfort zone and yours partner, too. You can make a list with the things that are ok to do and things that you don`t want to do.

Every detail is important in order to enjoy a swinging threesome. This should be about sharing pleasure and joy, about improving and not destroying a relationship.